The response to my Mother’s Day post (“Mama Said”) inviting you to share what your mama said was overwhelming. Normally I receive 10 to 15 comments per post. This one got nearly 50. Apparently, many of us were blessed with wise mothers.
After reading all of the responses, Pat Donohoe submitted this comment:
It’s gratifying to see how many of us had mothers who stressed education as the primary path to independence, contribution, and fulfillment. Especially in these times when public education that is inclusive and women’s rights to their own bodies are under attack. Here’s to our prescient moms!
In case you didn’t revisit the comments, here’s a sampling:
Chew your food with your mouth closed.
Eat everything on your plate. People in China are starving.
Be sure your underwear is clean when you leave the house in case you’re in a wreck.
Que sera, sera. (What will be, will be.)
Make your own money. Don’t expect a man to do it, and don’t expect your parents to do it.
Get your college education so you’re not dependent on a man.
Don’t marry for money, marry for love. But always love where there is a little money.
It’s nice to be important but much more important to be nice.
And more than one mother said to her son each time he left the house: Remember who you are.
One mother comforted her eight-year old daughter, who, once at bedtime, was suddenly terrified by the immensity of the universe. Mom, does it go on FOREVER? To which her mother replied: Just stop at every star.
My own mother once comforted me at bedtime when I told her I didn’t want to go to heaven when I died.
Why?
Because I don’t want to wear a white robe, strum a harp, and float on a cloud for eternity. I’d hate that.
Well, what would you like to do in heaven?
I’d like to wear blue jeans and play baseball all day.
Well, if that’s what heaven is for you, I’m sure there’ll be plenty of blue jeans and baseball there.
And that may have been the moment when I realized there’s more than one way to read the Bible. And more than one way to imagine the future. And that agnosticism is the better part of wisdom.
Que sera, sera.
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Thanks for the wonderful forum! It’s been fun to stop at every star. Especially the ones full of agnostics.
Might I also suggest Merle Haggard’s, “Momma Tried,” for your listening enjoyment, while we continue to pay tribute to our mothers, who always knew what we were doing even when we thought we were fooling them. How do mothers do that? No. They won’t give up the secret. Remember. Everyday is Mother’s Day, as it should be.
“Mama Said” was one of the best blogs yet not only for sharing your perspective but for graciously allowing the readers to become the collective blog—one filled with memories, humor, wisdom and warmth.
Your final comment today reminds me of something Richard Rohr has written: “Healthy religion is always humble about its own holiness and knowledge. It knows that it does not know.”
Thank you. What you are doing with & for us – giving us the opportunity to share love & wisdom is so precious… it builds community, it shows us what we have in common, and opens wide our hearts to healing mama energy💓🙏🏼
We were in Atlanta last weekend for a celebration of life service for a beloved friend, husband, father, and grandfather, and Mother’s Day was barely a blip on the radar. I have felt enveloped in both warmth and MotherLove as I read today’s blog of last week’s responses. My own mother’s wisdom tended to have a bitter edge, but her love was always evident. I will leave you with wisdom from my departed friend, who wore so many hats, one of which was hospital chaplain for palliative care. His views of Creator were liberally non-dogmatic. “Live your life daily preaching the Gospel, and only when you must, use words.” I’d say this suggestion is loaded with the ultimate Mother Wisdom: Love. Just love as you go forth.
Deep gratitude for enriching my life as Mother and sojourner.
I thought of the old song – “Mama said there’d be days like this.” It is the fact that Moms do have eyes in the back of their heads. This was a great read.